Should I communicate with my spouse during a divorce?

During the divorce process, there will be many times when you need to communicate with your spouse. As this is often a highly emotional and sensitive time, it’s important to ensure all communication is calm, respectful, and constructive.

We generally recommend that you communicate directly with your spouse where possible, rather than always going through your solicitor, because:

• It can be costly if your solicitor is used for every message.

• Messages relayed by lawyers may come across as more formal or even threatening.

• Direct conversations can help reduce tension if handled carefully.

Tips for healthy communication during divorce:

• Avoid communicating when angry or upset.

• Do not post anything about your divorce on social media.

• Keep all conversations civil and focused on practical issues.

When should communication go through your solicitor?
In some situations, it may not be safe or appropriate to communicate directly with your spouse. For example:

• Where there is a court order or restraining order in place.

• In cases involving domestic violence.

• If hostility is too great to allow constructive discussion.

In these cases, your solicitor in Dublin can handle all necessary communication on your behalf.

Should I keep a record of communication?
Yes, it is wise to keep copies of written communications (texts, emails, letters) that contain important information such as:

• Debt repayments or financial commitments.

• Discussions about tax returns.

• Child custody schedules.

• Settlement offers.

⚠️ Do not record verbal conversations without your spouse’s knowledge or consent — this may be illegal and could damage your case. Always consult your solicitor before recording any conversations.

What is the difference between a divorce and an annulment?

A divorce legally dissolves a marriage, meaning both parties return to being single, though the marriage is still recognised as having taken place.

An annulment, however, legally erases the marriage as if it never happened. Grounds for annulment in Ireland may include:

• Bigamy.

• Forced consent.

• Fraud or misrepresentation.

• Incapacity or inability to consummate the marriage.

• Underage marriage.

• Incest.

• Mental illness at the time of marriage.

Both parties can apply for an annulment, but strong evidence is required.

How long do I have to be married before I can get a divorce in Ireland?

Under Irish law, you must live separate and apart for at least two years before applying for a divorce.

If you’ve been separated for less than two years, you can prepare your application, but it cannot be submitted until the two-year period has passed.

Alternatively, you may apply for a legal separation, which allows you to live apart without divorcing. There is no minimum marriage length required for a legal separation, and the process typically takes 2–4 months.

How much does it cost to get a divorce in Ireland?

At Mary Molloy & Company Solicitors Dublin, we offer a fixed-fee consultation to discuss your situation and provide clear cost estimates.

For straightforward, uncontested divorces where both parties are in agreement, we can often offer a discounted fixed-rate divorce service.

More complex, contested divorces will involve additional costs, as these require more solicitor time, court hearings, and negotiation.

Do we need legal advice during our divorce?

Yes — obtaining legal advice is strongly recommended. Divorce involves significant financial, personal, and legal considerations, including:

• Division of property and assets.

• Pensions, debts, and financial support.

• Child custody and child maintenance.

Our divorce solicitors in Dublin provide sensitive and professional guidance to protect your interests at every stage of the process.

How long does the divorce process take in Ireland?

The divorce process length depends on your circumstances:

• Uncontested divorces: If both parties agree, the process is often quicker and may be finalised in as little as six months.

• Contested divorces: If one spouse contests the divorce, delays may occur due to mediation, court hearings, or negotiations.

• Children & assets: Cases involving children, property, pensions, or substantial assets generally take longer.

In Ireland, the minimum requirement is that you must have lived apart for two years before you can apply. Once that is satisfied, the process can move quickly in uncontested cases.

📞 If you are considering divorce, contact Mary Molloy & Company Solicitors today to arrange your confidential fixed-fee consultation. We can also provide consultations by phone or Skype for your convenience.